Self Responsibility VS Self Blame

Question: "I've heard this concept in the self-help and law of attraction community. That I am responsible for everything I create in my reality. This, depending on people's life situation, can be inspiring or negative. That both the positive and negative experiences are both my fault and that I need to change my thoughts in order for the outside world to change. That's how you take back control over your life. Is self-responsibility the same thing as self-blame?"

Nick's comment: Let's brake it down because there is truth in that statement, however, the last part of it you have to be aware of. So let's see:

> I've heard this concept in the self-help and law
> of attraction community. That I am responsible
> for everything I create in my reality.

Yes, you are fully responsible for everything you see happening in your life. However, we are not talking about "creating" we are talking about "projecting." There is a subtle difference. We, as extensions of God do have the power to create, but creation happens only in Truth, in the Kingdom, our Real home. Here on this seeming earth, what we do is, we project illusions. And all these illusions are based on ego. Because this world is not our home.

> This, depending on people's life situation, can be inspiring or negative.
> That both the positive and negative experiences are both my fault
> and that I need to change my thoughts in order for the outside world to change.

Everything we project, whether we call it positive or negative, it is still a projection, therefore if we project something we may label as positive, rest assure that the opposite of that will show up at some point because that is the nature of projections. The flaw in the law of attraction and self help movement is that they focus on having us changing our thought so that we can change our reality. What A Course in Miracles reminds me is to not try to change my thoughts per se, but to simply offer them to the Holy Spirit. In that sense, it could be said that our thought will be changed. The difference is, when we offer our thought system to the Holy Sprit, by looking at life through It's perception, we wont be affected by our circumstances, which is really the ultimate goal. Otherwise we will go through life at the effect of everything that happens out in the world, therefore having to keep changing our thought over and over and over again. That is a very exhausting task, that will give us temporary pleasure at times, but that will never lasting peace.

> That's how you take back control over your life.

That's the illusion, that you can take control of your life, when in reality, all you will do is opening another can or worms inside the one you are already in. Instead of trying to take control of our lives, all we need to do is surrender our lives to Spirit. Then we experience peace, true happiness, joy, and fulfillment.

And finally!

> Is self-responsibility the same thing as self-blame?

This is an ego trap. There is no such a thing as self-blame because in the eyes of God you are always innocent. Just let go and let God, trust that everything is happening in divine order, and your life will continue to transform as you offer your thoughts and concerns to the Holy Spirit. So the only responsibility worth taking, is to offer our thoughts to the Holy Spirit, and that's it!

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